“You can’t reject someone just because they have a tattoo, Dad.” This was part of a conversation between Whitney and her father during a time when he had taken on the role of CEO in her personal life. Whitney had recently experienced a significant life upheaval, and her father’s approach to love and support involved logistical tasks, such as sorting through dating app matches.

At almost 40 years old, Whitney found herself relying on her father’s support after a breakup. Her boyfriend decided they should “take a break”, leaving Whitney in a challenging situation. They withdrew from a house purchase contract, and Whitney sought refuge with her parents in Florida. The move felt regressive, yet the support from her parents was invaluable.

Whitney shared a close bond with her father from a young age. From trips to Krispy Kreme doughnuts to deep discussions as life evolved, their relationship remained strong. Now, amidst this heartbreak over her relationship, Whitney sought her father’s insights.

“I thought he would do anything for you. Instead, he did nothing,” he commented about Whitney’s ex-boyfriend.

Despite the challenges, Whitney and her father mapped out a recovery plan. They aimed to find a new home close to her parents, allowing Whitney to support them while establishing a fresh start. The search for a place included various checks, such as noise levels in apartments, ensuring the perfect choice was made.

Financial security also became an essential concern. Her father accompanied her to meetings with a financial advisor to bolster her confidence in her personal and financial well-being. Throughout the process, Whitney realized she hadn’t lost her home completely—it existed within her parents’ care, in the routines and laughter that filled their days.

The dating apps added another layer of humor to their journey. Whitney appreciated her father’s presence and assistance, while challenging app experiences brought laughter.

Whitney eventually moved into her new apartment in early February, finding comfort in personal touches like hanging pictures and discovering new local coffee shops. Despite missing daily walks with her parents’ dogs, Whitney felt refreshed and optimistic.

Valentine’s Day marked a new chapter with Whitney meeting someone through a dating app, independently selected. Despite the presence of tattoos, Whitney embraced this newfound confidence.

Whitney Hinds Coble works as a lawyer and trauma-informed coach, drawing inspiration from personal experiences to write her memoir, ‘Held’. The memoir focuses on trauma, relationships, and the meaningful support individuals provide on the road to recovery.

Her father’s unique role and support played a crucial part in her journey, ultimately guiding Whitney toward acceptance and recovery.