I am not a voter in Maine. If I were, the current political landscape would present a challenging decision. Recently, Planned Parenthood endorsed Graham Platner for the U.S. Senate. He secured the Democratic nomination with a significant majority, receiving 72 percent of the primary vote. The Democratic Party quickly rallied around him. Yet, there was little pause to listen to women who had bravely shared their personal experiences, unaided by consultants or campaign teams. They spoke simply and directly about their experiences.

I’ve been closely following this narrative—allegations, denials, explanations, interviews, and different perspectives. What resonates with me is not politics. It’s the stories of these women. As someone who has endured manipulation, intimidation, and emotional abuse, I understand when a story strikes a deeper chord beyond politics. I recognize the distress in behaviors like aggressive physical contact, an intimidating environment, or volatility linked to alcohol. People familiar with these situations immediately see certain patterns.

This recognition isn’t proof, but it holds meaning. It’s concerning how public conversations so quickly shift from the concerns of women to questioning their motives. Why now? What could they gain? The assumption that public scrutiny and accusations are rewards is misguided. For many women, the risk of public exposure and potential ridicule often outweighs speaking out. Their silence is not due to lack of courage but because they anticipate facing personal scrutiny and potential damage to their careers.

Graham Platner has spoken about the vulnerability of running for office. I don’t dispute the challenge. However, this was a choice he made. He initiated his campaign, hired consultants, and stepped into the spotlight. The women speaking up did not choose this kind of exposure and scrutiny. Their courage to share their stories should elevate, not diminish, the political stakes for all of us. If anything, it emphasizes the importance of our decisions in these situations.

As a political strategist for the Democratic Party, I’ve dedicated my career to causes strengthening our nation. Yet, I’ve never believed that one deserves my vote merely due to party affiliation. In some cases, I’ve intentionally not supported the Democratic nominee when values or conduct conflicted with my conscience. Maine, to me, is not just a political stage. It’s where my family roots are strong, and I hold deep personal connections and memories.

I want Democrats to thrive with insightful policies and effective leadership. I advocate for a government that protects rights, provides opportunities, and serves the people. However, I also want what benefits the people of Maine. Often, these desires appear in opposition, creating a tension that complicates political choices.

Setting aside issues of character when the stakes seem high enough for electoral gains is concerning. Elections are temporary. Characters endure. I once was married to a combat veteran and understand the sacrifices of military families. Service can lead to lasting effects, including trauma and emotional strain. During my time at the Pentagon, I developed policies addressing issues such as PTSD and sexual assault.

This experience has made me deeply aware of the impact these challenges can have. Veterans often withstand these pressures with their integrity intact. I resist any narrative suggesting military service should excuse harmful behavior toward others. Veterans and women deserve respect beyond these stereotypes.

Most veterans face their challenges without resorting to intimidation or harm. To imply otherwise misrepresents both veterans and survivors. Military service might explain aspects of someone’s life, but it should not excuse misconduct. Neither should it shape expectations around what military transition looks like.

I once left a marriage entrenched in these dynamics. I know how these behaviors are minimized until the affected begins doubting themselves. Women asking questions in Maine are not the problem. They deserve to be heard rather than dismissed. Character should be an essential quality, especially when the stakes are highest. This holds true in leadership worth sending to Washington.